Have you ever been in a situation in which you had to stop for a minute and ask yourself if what you’re doing (or going to do) is REALLY what YOU want to do?
It’s funny how I “learned” to care less and less about what other people think about what I am doing with my life. Believe me, I get lots of funny faces and comments about the importance of a balance between work and leisure, about putting emphasis on loving what I do instead of “doing” it because of the money or prestige it might provide.
Many people have smiled and expressed doubts about my future goals of becoming a certified yoga or Pilates instructor, learning Italian or how to play the piano, or about my visions and the importance of a “Feel-Good Manager” in any company.
But you know what? I couldn’t care less. I am working on living a life that I want and most importantly: ENJOY! 🙂
Particularly during my work as a career counselor, I saw too many students and Alumni choosing a major or working in a job they didn’t like or were even interested in. However, the pressure and expectations of their parents or friends were stronger and bigger than their belief to deserve happiness and contentment in their life. Sure, it all sounds so easy and logical, but I know it’s tough. Believe me, I’ve been there myself, and I’m still not there yet, but I’m aware and working on it.
As Karen Salmansohn put it: “Sometimes we just have to stop testing the diving board, and just JUMP.”
Absolutely! That’s exactly what I meant when I wrote my article “5 Reasons Why It’s Time to Start Taking Action”. There will NEVER be the right time and it’s impossible to please everyone with your decisions. I truly started living according to this. Just yesterday, I build the courage and died my hair from almost platinum blonde into honey blonde/brown. I just did it. I’ve always (seriously since I was a teenager!!!) wanted to go a little darker but I was too afraid and cared too much about what others would say.
Ironically, I thought people would like me less if I wouldn’t be so blonde anymore. How superficial, right?? This made me realize that I wasn’t the one being happy with my hair, and that I was the one who put myself into a prison. I am happy about my decision and the fact that I had enough courage to just do it (despite the comments or thoughts of others). Sure, some of you might think “Oh well, a hair color, that’s nothing.” Believe me, I admire people who just change their hair color and experiment with cuts and styles, but I am super fearful when it comes to this. So that’s seriously a big step for me and it feels GREAT.You know that situation when you’re looking for your glasses and you can’t seem to find them? And then you realize that you’re wearing them on the top of your head the whole time? It’s the same with happiness. Your happiness is always within you, but sometimes you forget where to find it.
What about you? Are you happy with your life? I’d love to hear your thoughts on that.