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5 Reasons Why You Cannot Rescue or Change People
We’ve probably all been there. We have had or still have people in our lives that we love unconditionally. Perhaps they are struggling or had hardships that you have helped them through. This could’ve been heartaches, loss of loved ones, addictions, low moods, existential fears, or simply times of worry.
How did you feel throughout this journey? Did you feel personally involved? Like this is also your problem that you need to solve?
A few days ago, I was sitting at a rooftop cafe downtown watching people laughing, talking, and arguing with each other. I started thinking about the phenomenon that things around us and our lives in general are really just our own perception. We feel, smell, taste, hear, and see situations and things the way we want, influenced by past experiences and our own cognitive processes.
Isn’t it incredible to think that, for example, the green tea I am drinking right now might taste totally different to you? Or the smell of vanilla might smell to you like the way roses smell to me? We will never really know. All we know is that “vanilla” smells the way we perceive it to since we were told that this is vanilla and the smell we associate with it.
The same goes for our thoughts. The way people think about others is actually a reflection of their own feelings towards themselves, projected on others. So when it comes to conflicts between people, how do we deal with different opinions and the emotional stress that comes along with them?
Here are five tips that could help you:
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You know that inner feeling of being fed up with yourself and your situation? Can you relate to that feeling of being stuck? This is something that I’ve been feeling a lot lately. There are so many things that I’ve told myself I’d do when my job got less busy, when the summer arrived, when I had more time, when I had my own place …
Which of those things have I done? To be honest… not many. I said I’d get my car washed as soon as the winter was over. Spring and summer came and went, and I kept driving by that car wash. This changed only two days ago, when I spontaneously decided to ‘just do it’ and finally got my car washed.
This same pattern repeats when it comes to getting my teeth cleaned, going to medical annual check-ups, riding my bike around in my new area and the list goes on. I recently got so fed up that I simply went to the doctor’s, got an appointment for a teeth cleaning, and grabbed my bike and went for a one hour bike ride. And you know what? It felt good! The time is ‘now’ to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.
Here are five reasons to start taking action:
Here is an aritcle I wrote that got published on MY YOGA online:
I have been single for quite a long time now. This used to make me feel like I was a bad, or weird person. It even made me think that I was unlovable. Until the day I decided to fall in love with myself.
Now spring is finally here! It seems like love is in the air. You may have seen those faces looking for a date, for someone to share the upcoming beautiful, warm spring days, and nights, with. Maybe you’re even one of those people who don’t have that “special someone” who cares for you, or invites you out to a picnic? So what? How can it be that this season has the power to make us feel uncomfortable with our single status, although most of the year we don’t really mind?
You might be thinking “Oh, I actually like myself, I’m pretty okay.” No, I mean you really need to fall in love with yourself first. Think about it, if you just like yourself most of the time, how can another person fall in love with you, if you cannot even love yourself?
Here are six ways to fall in love with yourself:
This article I wrote got published on DOYOUYOGA:
We are 5 months into 2013. Do you remember the goals you set at the beginning of this year? I do. And yes, I admit it, I am “guilty” of not having started to work on most of my New Year’s resolutions, yet I have already set new goals for myself today. Does that sound familiar? Well, no worries, you are obviously not alone. Human beings are goal setters and goal seekers. Goals are what motivate us (for the most part). That’s why we love setting them for ourselves. It gives us a feeling of purpose and something to look forward to.
However, staying motivated if the goal doesn’t seem to be attainable or is taking too long to be achieved is the hardest part. In those times keep in mind that you are the leader of your own change. No one else.
Here are 7 tips on how to motivate yourself (and others):
This article I wrote was published in the ELEPHANT JOURNAL:
More and more organizations realize that happy employees translate into productivity, motivation, team spirit, and overall success for a company.
As I have written about before, stress is an important factor determining not only a person’s health but also motivation and performance levels at work.
I’ve recently read about and talked to people (in Germany) who actually have the job title called “Feel-Good Manager.” I’m not joking!
You’re probably thinking “What the heck is that?”
Before you start picturing a guru sitting on the floor with crossed legs, a therapist inviting employees to come lay down on a couch and talk about their problems, or a clown entertaining people during lunch breaks, I’ll stop you right there and explain.
This article I wrote got published on DOYOUYOGA:
Do you know that feeling of having all kinds of negative thoughts about yourself jumping up and down in your head? Being regretful and angry about something you’ve said or done a few hours ago or even a few days ago? Do you know how much time of your life you’re wasting by doing this?
I started my first real job after grad school about three weeks ago. Besides all the new faces and names, my tasks are completely new. I’m taking in a ton of new information every day, learning things I have to watch and remember. Last week, I forgot to add a header in a Word document. Big deal, right? Believe it or not, I caught myself thinking about it and beating myself up for it the entire 40min train-ride on my way home after work. I simply didn’t get over the fact that I forgot the header (!)and that my manager had to remind me. What’s wrong with that picture?
This article got published on ELEPHANT JOURNAL:
If you’ve followed the headlines in news magazines or listened to the radio lately, there has been quite a lot about the increase of stress at work. And it’s not only an issue for people who are employed. What about students in grad school (or any type of school), single mom’s or dad’s, housewives, or people in retirement? We all have stress.
Stress is subjective. Do you know people who are constantly on the move, juggling several balls in the air at once, and yet don’t feel stressed? See? Stress starts in your head, with your attitude and perspective. Although you might not throw every ball in your hand with the same energy, you need to keep it all in perspective to make it work. The trick is to find a balance between things we HAVE TO do and things we WANT TO do.
If you’re struggling to find your homeostasis, then here are 6 tips to de-stress yourself:
This article I wrote got published on YOGANONYMOUS:
Have you ever felt like you know someone or something is bad for you but you still can’t let go or forget?
Have you ever loved somebody so much that it physically hurt? Do you know the feeling of physical pain after you heard something about a person you loved, a feeling like somebody just punched you in your stomach and it makes you want to throw up?
If you have experienced at least one of those scenarios then, congratulations, you have been in love. The concept of love is quite simple but so powerful. It can heal illnesses, or make you the happiest and friendliest person in the world; however, it can also tear you apart and make you feel miserable. A break up can be just as traumatic as a serious accident or even death of a friend or family member, so taking care of yourself is crucial.
The good news is that your mind is an incredibly powerful part of you that only
This article got published in “ELEPHANT JOURNAL”,find it HERE and it was featured in a national radio show. Find the audio excerpt HERE!
Hi, my name is Karen and I am not perfect.
I have hurt people and I was not always my best possible self. I have cut in line at a store; I got annoyed by people and showed them. I have had a bad day and did not always show gratitude and love toward people who mean the world to me.
Get my point? All of us can be difficult to deal with at one time or another.
However, if you catch yourself in those moments and take a second to rethink your next reaction, then congratuations! You are practicing something wonderful, the self-growth eliciting and best self-development tool out there called self-reflection.
According to studies, over 70 percent of senior executives lack the ability